... You did what you thought would help. That it eventually didn't is something to learn from, ah? It wasn't like you weren't telling him his son was still alive when he was mourning his death to your face.

( totally theoretical, also how he knows he's tired. he usually wouldn't inject this kind of honesty in. )

We all do what we can. And my husband is suffering enough right now, so he can choose to believe in this one kindness, until he chooses otherwise.